I've recently read an interesting book so I decided to share a few thoughts here. The book is called Keep your love on! by Danny Silk and obviously, it talks about love - the author teaches you how to build a relationship within a marriage. However effective communication is not only necessary between a husband and a wife. Many intimate (and not so intimate) relationships can be improved if we know and use some basic communication principles.
The main goal of a conversation is to understand each other.
Thoughts and needs of both parties are equally important and have to be respected. We have a right to stop a conversation if our feelings are being devalued. It's all about personal boundaries.
To establish trust and intimacy we have to talk about our real feelings and needs.
People can't read minds so our goal is to clearly and respectfully explain what is going on inside of us.
You need to know what to focus on and learn to talk about your feelings without blaming the other person.
A big part of communication is the ability to listen and understand how you can improve the situation and help the person that you're talking to.
Our talks should be aimed at building and strengthening our relationship, not on destroying it
Each of us is responsible for our own actions so initially, we need to control ourselves and work on ourselves
In fact, there's even more good thought in that book. For example, it talks about how in a relationship you should not be a witness or an abuser but rather a mentally and spiritually strong person; how to respect yourself, your boundaries, and priorities; how fear can ruin relationships and how we can take in under control and let love win.
The main thought is simple as this: you have to work on your relationship and then they will be successful and blessed.
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